Relationship – Reality

For any relationship Trust and Respect are Important.

Trust means someone is always sincere and honest to you. They always try to protect you from all harms. In any situation, they are always there for you. Most Importantly they never hurt you and they never deceive you. Always they support you.

Respect means treating someone with high regards, valuing their opinions and ideas without any ego. Considering or accepting their opinions and Ideas even though you disagree those ideas and opinions. It is totally a positive feeling towards them.

Mostly women are sincere and honest but some men are not like that. I will explain in detail.

According to psychology men create trauma bond with women which is a manipulation of men. First, men get the attention of women with appearance or fake confidence or by sympathy and make the women to accept him. Once the woman accepted him, he tries to get her in to his control. Once he is confident that the woman is in his control then he tries to separate the woman from her parents, family and friends. He Always do emotional black mailing. He Always blame the woman by saying you are not sincere and honest and also, he abuses the woman. He disrespects the woman and comment negatively on her dignity. At one point woman feels that, she may be wrong and he is right. Woman will surrender to the situation and to the mental stress.  I saw some women slipped into depression and even ending their life. This is manipulation of men with trauma bond. There are different types of trauma bonds but mostly women are victims.

Men with honesty will do all possible required things to keep the relationship happy. Whereas men without honesty will not do basic required things and always tell excuses for not doing the required things. 

A confident man means he is not like a superman but he will try to find solutions for any situation. Whereas a fake confident person always gives excuses for not completing the task and he will not accept his inability. 

Without respect a relationship cannot sustain. I already told respect means having high regards and accepting opinions and Ideas of the other person.

Here I want to explain difference between argument and discussion. In argument people always try to judge their point and won’t accept others. Whereas discussion means knowing opinion of other’s, accepting them and finally doing the best possible thing.

Mostly men are argumentative. They don’t listen and accept the opinion of women.

Ego, disrespect and untrust will always spoil the relationship. Mostly men will have these negative qualities. Men always think that women do not have knowledge and also, they blame women on their dignity. In reality women has more knowledge and they are more dignified than men. 

In any relationship giving, sacrificing and making happy the loved ones will give happiness to both.

For happy relationship there Should not be any blame game, should not disrespect, should never comment on dignity and should never lie.  

Any relationship will be happy if it is based on Trust and Respect. Also understanding each other is important. 

My next two posts are, one is on friendship and in other post I will explain why men disrespect and make negative comments on woman. I will also explain, if men do these things, what women should do and should not do at that time.

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                                                                                          Macallin

How a friendship should be

People often talk about friends and friendship. But most of them don’t know how a friendship should be.

I will explain my experience. Everyone will have problems. I also have problems. I share my problems with my trusted friend. Because I will get solution, opinion and guidance which are really helpful for me. Also, my mind will be relaxed.  Always my friend gives honest, useful and correct suggestions for me. My friend always cautions me.

A sincere and honest person always try to find solution for his problems with the help of trusted friend. Luckily, I trusted a right friend.

I also share my success stories and achievements with my friend to get an honest appreciation. My friend is really intelligent and highly dignified.

Always I trust and respect my friend. My friend is supportive and a great strength to me.

I share everything with my friend without any hesitation. That trust was created by my friend. Really hats off to my friend. Trust is very important in friendship.

True friendship will never have ego, jealous and untrust.

Friendship always seeks development of each other and always supports each other in any situation.

When you have money, many people will be around you. But when you don’t have money or you are in trouble, then those behind you and support you are real friends.

Respect is more important in friendship.

Because of supporting a person no one has the right to disrespect or degrade them. If anyone take advantage of the situation and disrespect or degrade, they are opportunists and negative people. Keep distance from them.

I truly trust and respect my friend and my friend also truly trust and respect me.

With my experience I hope all the readers will understand how a friendship should be.

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                                                                                Macallin